For this next part, I’m going to give you a soundtrack 🙂
If you read Part 1: awesome, welcome back! If not, you might want to go here first. In Part 1, we talked about finding your voice: what it means, and how to do it (the fun way). Today, we’ll dig deeper into what lights us up, and I’ll explain why it matters to start within.
What feeds your fire?
Who do you want to be? What lights you up? What would it look like if you were 100% YOU?
At the end of this Leo season, I would like to invite us all to take a deep breath and tune into our passion. If this is difficult, maybe the following questions can help. You can journal or meditate on them, or read them before you go to bed with the intention to listen to the answer in the morning.
- What makes you smile?
- What would you do without getting paid?
- When were you truly happy? What were you doing?
- What did you love to do when you were a child?
- If these were your last days, what would you want to be doing tonight?
- What would make you feel excited to get up tomorrow morning?
Side note: while questions like “what do you want to be known for”, and “how would your future / past self feel about you” can be very helpful, they can also add outside expectations (and potential judgment). Right now, we want to hear YOUR voice. It doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks. You get to take the lead on this one. Get still and really listen to your own inner voice. Trust yourself. Right now, yours is the only voice that matters.
Why does it matter (that you find your fire)?
The simplest answer is this: being in love with life, waking up with a sense of purpose, and following your passion feels really fucking amazing. It brings a joy and a focus that I haven’t found anywhere else. It’s an ongoing journey, but it’s so worth it!
Of course, there is a longer (and slightly darker) answer too.
If you don’t define what your happiness looks like, you will always depend on others to move forward. Occasionally, somebody will show up who gives you exactly what you wanted. Other times, your days will feel disappointing, and “not quite right”. You can’t put a finger on it. You might blame your job, your partner, your family, your friends. Too busy, too boring, too rigid. Not exciting enough, not interesting enough, not enough.
The truth is: you can’t expect others to give you something you didn’t know you wanted.
If you don’t know what makes you happy, you’ll be throwing darts with a blindfold on. Some things might be great, others might be terrible, and most of them will probably be very mediocre. If you want to go from “meh” to “awesome”, you need to find your HELL YES and chase it down.
How will this help me find my voice?
Gee, thanks Flora. I came here to find my voice, and now I’m journaling about the hobbies of my inner child. What is this all about?
Good question! In Part 1 we briefly talked about “surface level confidence”. This comes from bandaid solutions and feels forced and unnatural. On the other side of the bridge lies true confidence. This is built from the inside out. One of the paths to true confidence, is through passion. If you fall in love with life, new opportunities open up, and you’ll discover a part of yourself you never knew existed. Finding your voice will simply be a positive side effect.
|Surface level confidence||True confidence (from within)|
|– Takes effort|
– Feels scary
– Quick fix
– Resolving to share your opinions
– Trying to smile more (so people will like you)
– Trying to speak up, because you want to say something
|– Comes with ease|
– Feels natural
– Long term solution
– Simply sharing what feels true to you
– Naturally smiling (because you’re feeling good)
– Speaking up, because you have something to say
If you try to be more vocal without working on the stuff below the surface first, you will likely feel anxious and unstable. You will be talking for the sake of talking, and monitoring your speech, body language, and attitude.
I would like to invite you to start within. Going within has two very useful benefits that will help you find – and share – your voice.
- Being heard. Listen to yourself first. If you want others to truly hear you, don’t you think you should start by giving yourself your full attention every now and then? The more you listen, the more you’ll feel worthy of being listened to.
- Authenticity. There is so much power in your truth. It’s much easier to ask for what you want if you know what that is. Knowing who you are will make you feel stronger and more confident. Living your life in a way that feels good to you will bring you joy, and it will draw people in. It is so powerful to be around people who have fun with life.
Sure, it’ll take a little more time, but the journey will be fun. Forget about pushing, forcing, and working really hard to bring people into your life. Be the you-est you that has ever you-d, and people will come to you.